Beat the Fear of Change

The past interviews have left me thinking about change.

Life drastically and repeatedly changes.

With changes come challenges that tempt you to get down on yourself and your life.

Moments come when you ask yourself what you’re going to do and you start to face the fear of failure and loss.  That’s the time to check yourself.

With change, you must simplify your life.  Learn to appreciate what you have, rather than what you want.

You see, everything we have in this world is just a thing, an object, a new shiny toy.  It all fades and wears away.  Or it simply gets boring until you find the next shiny object.  That’s how life is.

I look around me at what I already have.  People I love, a husband, a beautiful baby boy who smiles with two big dimples every time I look at him.  I have love.

With that, as changes come to my life, my focus needs adjustment.  It has to turn to what I can gain from change.

You may be afraid of change because of what you will lose.  You go on a diet so you’ll lose out on fast food, eating out, and extra dessert.

You leave that guy knowing that he’s not good for you.  But still, you focus on the loss.  What is the gain? You’ve gained joy, freedom, and a new purpose.  You’ve gained another opportunity to go positively at life again. Or to find new love.

Being human, it’s natural for us to focus on our losses.  Our society has conditioned us to associate change with scarcity.  Saving money means losing out on material things- when it means gaining financial freedom.

The concept can be applied to anything.

Now, how do you recondition yourself to associate change with gain?

A friend recently sent me a message that encouraged her, not expecting it to deeply impact me- but it did.  It spoke of being “steadfast and patient in suffering and tribulation”.  In it, tribulation was defined as “being under pressure”.

It said, “Don’t cave, don’t faint.  Instead go boldly to the throne of grace.  In the Name of Jesus you will get the help you need”.

It ended explaining that we should be constant in prayer and patient under pressure, so we are unmovable.

I can be honest with you and say that I’ve had plenty of signs showing me that God is with me but do I always remember that? No.  I am naturally conditioned to focus on the loss rather than the gain.

When I finally remember that my focus needs to change the situation does with it.  I feel better and the situation naturally works out.

With every change will come numerous valuable lessons.  That is plenty of gain in itself.

With every change will come new opportunity.

Change brings gain.  Change leads you into the future.

So with the change in your life right now, change your perspective.  You’ll begin to find that change is good.  Don’t let go of grace.  The enemy feeds off of fear.  But grace comes with steadfast faith.  Try it.