If you have a desire to walk into any room without feeling like you don’t fit in- or you feel insecure around others- then this is for you. If you have been affected by having low confidence then today you’re going to learn how to gain confidence in a three easy steps. Best of all, you won’t feel fake while doing it.
Trust me, I’ve been in your shoes. My sense of confidence has had its highs and lows throughout my life. In the last few years, it was at its lowest point. I moved to a new state where I didn’t know anyone, I hadn’t been accepted to the school of my dreams, and my marriage was on the rocks. There was no family nearby and my friends were thousands of miles away.
As time has passed I have worked on my own self worth and gained confidence like never before.
Now let me ask you a question. Do you feel inferior to others more than you would prefer? Are you doing anything about it? My guess is that you may not have even considered that there’s something you can do.
Here’s a simple guide to gaining confidence
1. Don’t compare yourself to others.
When that little voice inside starts to compare, take it as an opportunity to appreciate your individuality. The truth is that you are different but its a wonderful thing. People who embrace their individuality are the game changers in the world. You know what that means? It means that we can all be game changers in some way.
2. Don’t be jealous.
Ouch. Yes that’s a tough one to swallow. Be willing to be vulnerable with yourself and admit when you are jealous of someone. While it’s a loaded topic to get into, there are a couple of reasons you may be jealous. Either that’s an area where your conscience knows that you need improvement or you can’t simply be happy for others’ success. Admitting your jealousy is the best way to release it.
3. Let go of Self-Pity
This is another tough one to face. You may be caught up in self pity. I’ve noticed that when you’re stuck in the “woe is me” mentality, you may tend to think that others are sort of out to get you. Once you stop feeling sorry for yourself you’ll stop attracting negative behavior that causes others to feel sorry for you and in turn, make you feel much smaller than you really are.
While confidence is a trait that many of us need growth in, it is one that can be exercised like a muscle. At first, the areas we need growth in will hurt to change but the more we exercise (practice) them, the more we will gain confidence.
The more confident you are, the better life will be for you in terms of your personal health, relationships, and your success. Now it’s time for you to look at these three steps to gaining confidence and focus on the areas you know you need to improve.
Write down the qualities that you feel make you different from others and think about how you can benefit others using them. If you’re jealous of a friend, admit it to yourself and release it. Finally, stop the self pity and rise above what’s happened to you in the past or present and look at those things in a new perspective.
Stay tuned this month for more notes on Confidence!
With love,
Iviana
