I’m feeling so excited to lay so many things down for you in this topic! This is an issue that many of us women struggle with and there are not many tips for women out there to help you out!
The problem that many women have is that they dwell on problems. They drive themselves nuts thinking about everything wrong with their lives or their situation. Then, they push themselves to a point that they are completely down in the dumps and don’t have any energy to move forward.
We need to find ways to make it through our lives without losing our minds and here’s how:
1. Block out the negative!
There are many ways that negative thoughts and attitudes consume us. For one, most of us have friends or family members that constantly remind us about bad things, catastrophes, worst case scenarios, and even what’s already wrong with us.
When you’re feeling sorry for yourself, shut these people out completely. You do not need to be reminded that you’ve hit rock bottom. You also don’t need to be reminded that you’re dating a jerk who wont change. Let’s face it- you already know that!
2. Divert your mind.
The biggest issue, as I mentioned before, is that we love to dwell. So stop dwelling and start to move towards improving your situation. There is absolutely no point in thinking about how bad your situation is and how much it stinks because that is not productive.
What you should do is start working on improving that situation. If it’s money issues, start finding ways to save money and ways to make more money. If it’s relationship issues, start thinking about what you can do to improve yourself to help it. If there’s no helping it, find a way to get out of it. If it’s health issues, develop new ways to live a healthier life. Did you know that many of our diseases are self-inflicted? Our minds are very powerful and so are our eating and exercise habits.
Always keep yourself busy and try not to have too much time wasted letting the hours pass being depressed. Television is another big waste of time. Find a good book to read. My book called 3 Days to Overcome, Get off Your Butt, and Stop Being a Downer is a great place to start and it offers many tips on improving this same issue.
3. Exercise
Many of you know this already but most of you never do it. I don’t think there are any people I know that have told me they never feel good after exercise. When I’m down and out, one of my favorite things to do is go for a bike ride. I feel free and relaxed.
There are many types of exercises you can do. Walk, jog, go to the gym, go swimming, or anything just to get your blood flowing. It always helps.
The main thing to do when you’re feeling sorry for yourself is to just stop. There are many better things you can be doing with your life. The first is to find ways to improve your life. Stay away from the drama and negativity. Trust me, it will rub off. And if it’s you that likes the drama and to be negative, it’s time for you to do some soul searching and find ways to stop being so amused by such a meaning less way to live.
As I always say, we all have one life to live so let’s start making it the best we can. The only way to do it is work on ourselves and be willing to constantly improve.
I hope this touched many of you! If it did, make sure you share it on twitter and facebook!
Love,
Iviana
Hey Iviana,
When it comes to feeling sorry for oneself, I think men and women are pretty similar. We both do it and for both of us it’s pointless.
Great tips listed. One of my biggest things to do is get my workout on. That always elevates my mindset and settles negative emotions.
But also, the most sensible and ideal way for me is just to remember all that I have to be thankful for. No matter how bad my day may be, or life may have been, I’m still pretty darn blessed to be breathing…to have a healthy wife and kids – to be healthy myself. There’s another cat just like me who didn’t wake up from his sleep somewhere in the world. That’s the perspective I try to live in.
Also, another thing that helps is doing things for others. To me, that’s one of the most fulfilling things in this world. As a crack head is hooked on crack – I get my high on helping others.
PEACE
I must say you are a great helper!!! Great point on exercise too because it really is my favorite thing to do. When I don’t, I feel like a blob. Literally every time I work out I feel so accomplished and fulfilled.
Thanks for the visit!
Hi Iviana,
Pretty powerful stuff you shared here.
I’d like to share something with you if I may. When I was ticked off and feeling sorry for myself I use to call my Dad and want to gripe. I would start going off on all that was wrong and he would stop me instantly in the middle of my complaining. He would say that things could be much worse. I could be laying up in a hospital bed dying of cancer so when you look at the scheme of things, you don’t have it so bad. Just be thankful you are breathing and healthy. From that moment on every time I wake up I start by thanking God that I’m just
breathing. I’m so blessed to have what I do that there really isn’t anything to complain about. When you learn to love yourself, nothing else matters.
Just my thoughts on this subject. We all have to live and learn. Stop listening to what other people are saying and start listening to yourself. You’re an awesome person and you should be thankful just to have an opportunity to get out into the world today.
Adrienne
Preach it girl! My mom did the same to me and for a while I just didn’t want to call her when I felt bad. It was because I didn’t want to hear that. Then, when the times came that I wanted to feel sorry for myself and didn’t want to hear the truth from her, I started to rethink things. I now think, “You know what, it could have been so much worse” or “It can only get better from here” or “Things always do get better”. I know it’s cliche but thank God for the bad times because if we don’t have them we wont appreciate the good so much.
Thanks for stopping by!
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